Hey my name is Jonathan.
When I was at 1st year University, I bought a book called ‘The Abs Diet’. I was so obsessed about it, I made a commitment to follow through everything it says. I was a skinny fat Asian at that time. Being brought up in a musical family, I was not allowed to play contact sports, and my time was spent practicing piano and violin to make sure I passed my music exams.
After following ‘The Abs Diet’ regime, I lost 12 kg in 6 months time. Did I get visible abs like the one that’s being promised on the advertising page? I was lean and skinny. but there aren’t any muscle to show.
I quit gym when I graduated and started working. 9 months later, I moved closer to the city, and got myself back to my workout routine. This time, I wanted to get big so bad. It wasn’t just abs, I want nice bazooka arms as well. I was willing to do anything (apart from steroids) to make it happen. I went all out with supplements, weight gainers, testosterone booster, you name it, I’ve tried it. I trained 2 hours a day, 6-7 days a week. You would find it hard to get me NOT to go to gym.
This time around, I got real FAT. I ballooned up to 89kg. I was big, but i could hardly move. 89kg is big for an asian guy. I was huffing and puffing just walking up a hill. WALKING, not running. Did I get my abs? no, my guns..hm..a little bit.
I finally decide to invest into some personal training to see if it would actually work out better for me. ‘Jonathan, you need cut out all your protein powders, just eat normal: fish, beef, chicken, eggs and tuna’. you can get protein from them. I followed my personal trainer’s instruction, I went from 89kg to 69kg in 3 months time. am I getting my abs this time? my chest is getting bigger, but no sign of washboard abs. What am I doing wrong?
There were a lot frustrations. I am doing everything I could but why is it still not working?
I asked people at they gym, some kiddos, just turned out from no where, after 6 months, his arms are about to explode. I was like ‘what the hell is going on here?’
I was frustrated, ungrateful, and pretty much just wanting to give up.
[ In order for things to change, I have to change. ]
Not just changing action, but really reseting that belief from ‘I’m a hardgainer’ to ‘hey, I’m going to enjoy every rep, and do whatever it takes, however long its going to take me to make it happen’. I started reading self help books, not on fitness but mind programming. My attitude changed from ‘I’m a hardgainer, to my cells are responding to my beliefs’. I constantly walk up to people who are successful in the area of fat loss or getting toned up and ask them, ‘hey man, how long have you been training?’ ‘What do you do for biceps?’ This time round, I position myself to learn, and to get my ego out of the way, and humble myself and learn, model from successful people.
This is the result from changing my belief, my attitude of ungratefulness, to appreciation of wellbeing, of my body, of the people that’s helping me and the resources on the internet that I can learn from.
If you’re asian like me, you know what it feels like looking at others and so envious of what they can achieve. But if I can do it, so can you.
I’ve been training consistently for past 5 years, and recently completed my Certificate IV in Personal Training. Through years of trial and error and many more to come, I have figured what is working, what is NOT going to work. I’m in no way a Fitness Expert, i’m just an ordinary guy who’s passionate about fitness. Whether it is fat loss, increase muscle size, flexibility, strength or power, I have been there, and am STILL learning it.
I really appreciate you stopping by, checking out the articles here. If you are not happy with the way you look, sick and tired of being so lazy and unproductive, I encourage you to take that first steps to fitness. If you’re ready to step up, and give yourself a chance, you’ve come to the right place.
“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”
― Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button screenplay